At EDGE, we provide the environment for transformational – not transactional – mentoring relationships to thrive. This guide will walk you through some of the components that make EDGE unique, as well as our most commonly asked questions. You'll also find best practices provided by our current mentors.
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Mentors can only provide help where and when the mentee would like to receive help.
By asking good questions, being patient, and praying for your mentees, you will be able to see more clearly where God wants you to guide them. Another component of mentoring is being there just to be there. Sometimes a simple email or text of encouragement may be exactly what a mentee needs.
Mentoring is different than discipleship.
Mentoring is walking alongside your mentees as they progress in their professional, personal, and spiritual development – all while applying a Christian perspective to situations arising in the workplace, with family or in other settings.
“As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.”
EDGE’s origin and name comes from the notion that Christians are actively, thoughtfully, prayerfully and encouragingly refining themselves and others.
“...and what you have heard from me in the presence of many witnesses entrust to faithful men who will be able to teach others also.”
2 Timothy 2:2
Considering the Great Commision, we are called to help one another grow in their walk with Christ. Such a calling extends outside of discipleship; that is, we are called to help one another grow in all aspects of life – at home, at work and in faith.
“After three days they found him in the temple, sitting among the teachers, listening to them and asking them questions... And Jesus increased in wisdom and in stature and in favor with God and man.”
Luke 2:46 + 52
Learning from others was fundamental to Christ’s time on Earth and is foundational to the spreading of the Gospel after Christ ascended. Today, we have the same opportunity to be teachers to those we guide.
“If the iron is blunt, and one does not sharpen the edge, he must use more strength, but wisdom helps one to succeed.”
There are many different ways to sharpen the edge of anything. Brute force is one way. Another way is to learn from those who have gone before – those with experience. There is power in imparting wisdom to others.
The way a mentor shows up can sometimes have more of an impact than the words they speak. A successful mentor assumes a posture that can be described as:
While every relationship will be unique, the common thread of EDGE relationships is that both people come to the table open and ready to learn from each other. This is the spirit that drives the transformational nature of EDGE groups.
One on Ones
Regular interaction between the mentor and each mentee in a one-on-one setting is what makes the EDGE experience. Texting, calling, or meeting for coffee, lunch, or dinner should all happen regularly. This creates more comfortable discussion during group calls and allows the mentee to dive deeper into specific areas or seek counsel where needed.
Each group should have one face-to-face meeting within the first six months of group placement. One option is hosting your mentees at your home. If you have mentees who are not local, plan to have them video conference into the meeting.
We ask that you open and close with prayer each time you’re together. Whether led by the mentor or a mentee, this time to focus hearts and minds on Christ is foundational to the EDGE experience.
Each call should include some time hearing from each member, mentor and mentee alike, and sharing what’s going on in their world. Using some mnemonic device like these below can make this process quick and enjoyable for each attendee:
Roses, buds and thorns (good things, what you're looking forward to, and struggles)
Good, bad, God (where you saw good, bad, and God in your life this week)
One word on the week/two weeks since last meeting
During calls, there should be a mix of personal, professional, and spiritual components. That doesn’t mean equal time has to be spent on each, but it does mean that mentors should lean into the Word when the Bible has authority on the matter.
Mentor and mentees share the responsibility of facilitating the conversation and direction of calls. Sometimes silence is good. It allows for processing and for mentees to prepare their thoughts. Each week doesn’t have to be prescriptive. If something happens in one of the mentees’ lives and that needs to be the focus for the week, then it’s okay to put the curriculum on hold.
Your first activity as a group should be the lifeline activity. Plan to share your lifeline first, and have one or two mentees share weekly. Your group may be spent up to two months completing the activity.
Every group’s experience will be unique, but here are some best practices to help you as you get started.
Open and close each call with prayer
Hear updates from everyone early in call
Blend the dialogue and lean into the Word
Be okay with silence
Make yourself available
Each call is designed to last 60 to 90 minutes.
Calls take place two times per month at a day and time that the mentor and group choose.
Video conferencing is preferred as it allows for a much more personal relationship to be established especially early on. Being able to share in emotional expressions and seeing one another in personal, physical spaces allows for a more committed sense of engagement.
Some video service options include Google hangouts, Zoom, Join.Me, or Skype.
Scheduling your day and time
Using an online scheduling website makes determining when you meet very simple. There are many options out there. We’ve seen success and simplicity with doodle.com. You can find helpful how to guide on their website, as well.
The options for video conferencing seem endless and the different platforms have their own advantages and drawbacks. Below, we lay out some of the services being used by our current groups, but if you have another you prefer, please feel free to use it.
RightNow Media is like Netflix for Bible studies. It's an amazing resource for our mentors that provides content and curriculum for your group, while also serving as a source of personal development for both mentors and mentees.
The content covers everything from financial health and marriage to family, kids and teens. Those you invite will have the opportunity to listen, study and share the resource with friends and family as well. When other users are invited, our subscription cost does not change. The RightNow Media mobile app makes it convenient to listen on-the-go.
Getting Started with RightNow Media
Accept the invitation you receive via email.
Set up your login.
Invite your mentees to RightNow Media on the desktop website
Let your mentees know the invitation is coming during your first call.
Click CONTACTS in the upper right corner.
A blue box will appear that says “Add New Contacts.”
Enter the email addresses of your mentees.
Choose their role as “User.”
Click “Send Invitations.”
Download the app to your phone (optional).
When choosing LIBRARIES in the upper left, there are various categories of content including a channel for EDGE Mentoring. On this channel, there are subcategories and content that has been used or recommended by EDGE.
Launching Your Group
Mentor drives conversation, each member shares quick intro and background, set expectations for the group and establish preferred communication styles (text/phone/email); set up personal lifeline activity.
Next two to three calls
Developing your Personal Lifeline: Each member does the exercise and shares with the group; mentor goes first to model the example.
Note: During the lifeline activity, determine what common threads exists between your story and your mentees' stories. This connection will help direct where the group goes next. The thread could be something like difficulties at work, struggles with parenting or feeling distant from God. Whatever the topic may be, discovering it will give you a good place to start with your group. If you don’t know where to start, consider using the Topics Assessment tool.
After these first 3-4 calls, there is no set path you have to take. Each group is unique, and sometimes the mentees’ life experiences will drive what’s next. Sometimes the group will put whatever content was planned on hold to respond to a situation that one of the mentees may share with the group. All of these variances in paths are valid – and good! Ultimately, that’s what makes the EDGE experience.